I just ended this shortlived 2 months relationship.

Somehow I wasn't sure of my feelings for him cos i feel he's more like a brother to me. But I agreed to give both of us a chance and entered this relationship.

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

So recently,he asked for a breakup.

His reason is simply he lost faith in both of us.

I did salavge this relationship but it doesn't seem to work.

I asked him for a chance yet he dun wan to give me.

I'm also angry with him for not trying to overcome this obstacle and jus give up on a relationship like that.

I gave him chances for those breakup i iniated. Why is it so unfair that he dun wan to give me a chance.

I wanted to try patching up. But it's also my ego that's stopping me from doing so.

Well, all my friends was shocked that i wanna try patching up with him cos they said it's not worth it to.

Wat should i do? I really really love him.

haiz. it's such a sad thing that when i start loving him, he starts losing faith.

Everything just go in opposite direction.

Now, do all of you think he will ask for a patch up? *i really hope he does. HAIZ*

Originally posted by kawaiigal:

I just ended this shortlived 2 months relationship.

Somehow I wasn't sure of my feelings for him cos i feel he's more like a brother to me. But I agreed to give both of us a chance and entered this relationship.

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

So recently,he asked for a breakup.

His reason is simply he lost faith in both of us.

I did salavge this relationship but it doesn't seem to work.

I asked him for a chance yet he dun wan to give me.

I'm also angry with him for not trying to overcome this obstacle and jus give up on a relationship like that.

I gave him chances for those breakup i iniated. Why is it so unfair that he dun wan to give me a chance.

I wanted to try patching up. But it's also my ego that's stopping me from doing so.

Well, all my friends was shocked that i wanna try patching up with him cos they said it's not worth it to.

Wat should i do? I really really love him.

haiz. it's such a sad thing that when i start loving him, he starts losing faith.

Everything just go in opposite direction.

Now, do all of you think he will ask for a patch up? *i really hope he does. HAIZ*

 

 u should have suggested "i think we should take a break for a while... a break from us." would be better... a cooling down period.

For the 3 breakups i initiated, I did ask for cool down period.

But he dun wan. He feels that a cool down period jollymeans breakup.

I dun even knows his feelings.

All i know is i still couldn't move on.

I regretted some of the things i did in the past.

Originally posted by kawaiigal:

For the 3 breakups i initiated, I did ask for cool down period.

But he dun wan. He feels that a cool down period jollymeans breakup.

I dun even knows his feelings.

All i know is i still couldn't move on.

I regretted some of the things i did in the past.

 

then wait for a few more weeks... whether or not he comes back... if it be, let it be.

It's been a month.

Initially, he still msn, msg me ad even meet me for lunch.

Nw he dun even talk to me at all.

I wanted to be friends with him.

He's a good friend.

I dun wanna lose such a friend.

At the same moment, I really hope that we can really patch back.

I've been crying whenever i think of what he had done for me or our sweet memories.

you are not clear what you want and you don't treasure the relationship and you sound emo. Anyways, its ended, why have you not moved on. The guy's moved on and I am gload he did.

you didn't treasure him while he was by your side, now that he's gone then you'll realise his "importance"... pft. he made you angry and you talk initiated a breakup? talk about him giving up on an obstacle you created man...

in a way i'd like to say "orbi good" but i guess it's too harsh, learn to treasure things before they're gone for good...

Yup... i udnertsnad... somehow...i really feels that i only start to treasure him when he's gone.

Hard to move on.

I dunno why i nid so muchtime to move on especially when this relationship is so short.

I'm quite sure he had moved on.

it's kinda disappointed to see im moved on so quickly also.

It's like this r/s means nth to him

guys don't like to hear things that is threatening.. and u did just that.. too bad for u

Originally posted by youyayu:

guys don't like to hear things that is threatening.. and u did just that.. too bad for u

small quarrels no need to say break break up... now he really granted u ur wish. u ought to be happy.

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you can listen here for free...

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

If you treat these kinds of things with contempt they will be taken away from you one day.

The hard truth is, I think he is just hurt and tired by your behaviour, and don't know which part of what you say is true anymore. And the thing is... do you know?

I understand because I had a similar experience with a person who just didn't seem to know what she wants. One moment she's nice and good to me and the next she tells  me that you're just wasting your time on her and that she does not feel anything. One moment she snaps at me for being too close and when I give her space she gets angry because she thinks I am ignoring her. I don't really blame her in some sort of way, I just kind of realized that she didn't really know what she wanted and was just trying to protect herself at each and every moment.

But the fact remains that such behaviour hurts the other party as well, and it reaches a point where the other person just feels that he cannot be played as a fool anymore and decides that such a thing cannot carry on. It's not about giving you chance or not, it's about stopping this whole vicious cycle.

Do you really think he feels good everytime you initiate a breakup? And three times you did this to him, and as you said it yourself out of spite and not really on a real reason. Simply because you needed something to win the argument, to get the final word in.

I am not judging you, don't get me wrong. But if you really want this to work then you need to take a honest look at your own behaviour and anything else. Because such things cannot be based on lies.

If you really want him back, and there's no certainty of that... then you really have to swallow your pride, admit what you did to him and clear the air about it. If not then it's really selfish and unreasonable to expect him to open himself to you and more hurts again when you are not ready to stay your hand from plunging the knife into his heart again.

You really got to be serious about this...

Originally posted by SingaporeTyrannosaur:

If you treat these kinds of things with contempt they will be taken away from you one day.

The hard truth is, I think he is just hurt and tired by your behaviour, and don't know which part of what you say is true anymore. And the thing is... do you know?

I understand because I had a similar experience with a person who just didn't seem to know what she wants. One moment she's nice and good to me and the next she tells  me that you're just wasting your time on her and that she does not feel anything. One moment she snaps at me for being too close and when I give her space she gets angry because she thinks I am ignoring her. I don't really blame her in some sort of way, I just kind of realized that she didn't really know what she wanted and was just trying to protect herself at each and every moment.

But the fact remains that such behaviour hurts the other party as well, and it reaches a point where the other person just feels that he cannot be played as a fool anymore and decides that such a thing cannot carry on. It's not about giving you chance or not, it's about stopping this whole vicious cycle.

Do you really think he feels good everytime you initiate a breakup? And three times you did this to him, and as you said it yourself out of spite and not really on a real reason. Simply because you needed something to win the argument, to get the final word in.

I am not judging you, don't get me wrong. But if you really want this to work then you need to take a honest look at your own behaviour and anything else. Because such things cannot be based on lies.

If you really want him back, and there's no certainty of that... then you really have to swallow your pride, admit what you did to him and clear the air about it. If not then it's really selfish and unreasonable to expect him to open himself to you and more hurts again when you are not ready to stay your hand from plunging the knife into his heart again.

You really got to be serious about this...

yup, take an analogy.

he is interested so he takes piano lessons for the piano exam. but then he failed 3 times liao... so a typical person will start to lose heart to learn further, naturally. patience, perseverance and determination have limits too.

I dedicate this song to you.

Liu Luo Ying- Hou Lai

We all make this mistake my girl.

Most important is to learn the lesson and cherish the next one who loves you.

Originally posted by kawaiigal:

I just ended this shortlived 2 months relationship.

Somehow I wasn't sure of my feelings for him cos i feel he's more like a brother to me. But I agreed to give both of us a chance and entered this relationship.

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

So recently,he asked for a breakup.

His reason is simply he lost faith in both of us.

I did salavge this relationship but it doesn't seem to work.

I asked him for a chance yet he dun wan to give me.

I'm also angry with him for not trying to overcome this obstacle and jus give up on a relationship like that.

I gave him chances for those breakup i iniated. Why is it so unfair that he dun wan to give me a chance.

I wanted to try patching up. But it's also my ego that's stopping me from doing so.

Well, all my friends was shocked that i wanna try patching up with him cos they said it's not worth it to.

Wat should i do? I really really love him.

haiz. it's such a sad thing that when i start loving him, he starts losing faith.

Everything just go in opposite direction.

Now, do all of you think he will ask for a patch up? *i really hope he does. HAIZ*

 

u asking for 3x breakup caused all the damage... if u reali love him jz be the hapi u n let him see the gal who he wooed...  if he hvnt moved on then most likely still got chance... free will la...

I understand because I had a similar experience with a person who just didn't seem to know what she wants. One moment she's nice and good to me and the next she tells  me that you're just wasting your time on her and that she does not feel anything. One moment she snaps at me for being too close and when I give her space she gets angry because she thinks I am ignoring her. I don't really blame her in some sort of way, I just kind of realized that she didn't really know what she wanted and was just trying to protect herself at each and every moment.

Well, spot on. my actions are exactly like her.

Guess i really dunno what i wan at that time.

But I knew it now.

But the problem is. is it so hard to be friends now.

He dun even talk to me anymore.

what i can say is time to move on :(

Originally posted by kawaiigal:

Well, spot on. my actions are exactly like her.

Guess i really dunno what i wan at that time.

But I knew it now.

But the problem is. is it so hard to be friends now.

He dun even talk to me anymore.

Girl, he just doesn't want to string you along.

I'm pretty sure his new girlfriend wouldn't like you hanging around anyway.

Let him go.

Some people think they can forget better when you are not around. I am one of those who after break up will never ever talk to my ex-es anymore. So you cannot expect he can still be friends with you after breaking up.

Learn your lesson and move on.

Some people think they can forget better when you are not around. I am one of those who after break up will never ever talk to my ex-es anymore. So you cannot expect he can still be friends with you after breaking up.

Learn your lesson and move on.

well, he's e one who asked to be friends.

I din agree to it initially.

But now, when i feel that we can be friends, he dun even wanna talk to me anymore.

He's so being unfair to me everytime

Ar.... your fault ba... who ask you always quarrel you use break up to threaten him... maybe he is sick and tired of your tactics and wanna let you try the real feel of breaking up.

Sometimes i just dont understand why girls like to break up over small little things e.g. the guy dont wanna give in to her etc. I mean its not a very healthy relationship if either party keep mentioning the word break up over small issues.

Anyway your relationship is only 2 months old.. It is not that painful to just forget it and move on.

This teaches you something.. dont always expect people to give in to you... sometimes you have to appreciate their presence and effort. Cherish them while they are still with you.. not when they are already gone. Hope you learn this lesson.

Last piece of advice.. dont not use the word break up to threaten guys.. if they really love you they will feel very hurt by your usage of the taboo word so frequently whenever a quarrel emerges... This is your retribution now that your guy has really broken up with you.

Originally posted by kawaiigal:

well, he's e one who asked to be friends.

I din agree to it initially.

But now, when i feel that we can be friends, he dun even wanna talk to me anymore.

He's so being unfair to me everytime

Maybe he realized that it is hard to be friends now...

I don't think he is being unfair...

as the other forumites have pointed out, don't use the breakup word so often..

it makes the other party feel that you dont treasure this relationship, and that every single problem will lead to a breakup..

if he feels that you aren't putting in the effort and treasuring it, why will he bother..?

Originally posted by kawaiigal:

I just ended this shortlived 2 months relationship.

Somehow I wasn't sure of my feelings for him cos i feel he's more like a brother to me. But I agreed to give both of us a chance and entered this relationship.

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

So recently,he asked for a breakup.

His reason is simply he lost faith in both of us.

I did salavge this relationship but it doesn't seem to work.

I asked him for a chance yet he dun wan to give me.

I'm also angry with him for not trying to overcome this obstacle and jus give up on a relationship like that.

I gave him chances for those breakup i iniated. Why is it so unfair that he dun wan to give me a chance.

I wanted to try patching up. But it's also my ego that's stopping me from doing so.

Well, all my friends was shocked that i wanna try patching up with him cos they said it's not worth it to.

Wat should i do? I really really love him.

haiz. it's such a sad thing that when i start loving him, he starts losing faith.

Everything just go in opposite direction.

Now, do all of you think he will ask for a patch up? *i really hope he does. HAIZ*

 

Do you really love him? Or is this about your comfort zone and wounded pride?

Giving you the benefit of doubt, I'd still advise you to move on.

This whole thing had been, pardon me, quite a clown show from the start. From your "just-trying-out" to your multiple threats, pardon me again, your actions proved juvenile and your disregards to the relationship.

You complained that he had been unfair... Well actually, it had been just, for the three times you called it over, he came back pleading with you for a chance to salvage whatever you guys had left... You had 3 chances then, to realize your mistakes and to set this thing straight...

You mentioned that he has been ignoring you, he's either probably too busy trying to get over it or already had lost interest in this whole thing. Right now, your best bet is to put aside your pride, apologize and befriend him again. If that doesn't work, then it's time for you to learn a hard lesson and move on.

Life is a harsh teacher, thread more carefully next time