It's been nearly a year since we broke off. But i am still struck here on the same point where he left me.

He gave me all sorts of reason saying that he wants a breakup pushing all the blame to me. 2days later when i went to look for him again to try and save our relationship, i saw a lovebite on his neck. That kind of pain in my heart was undescrible. He already has a new gf.

The reason we quarrel and ended breaking up was because i found out that he have been chatting with this gal. I didnt expect things to turn out like that. Moments before we quarrel he was still lovingly holding my hand.

Being with him for 4 and a half year. We have even thought of starting our own family. We have even went to apply for a flat together. Little did i expect him to have a change of heart. Just moments after he break off with me. Maybe 4 years plus wasn't long but we have gone through so much ups and downs together, how would a guy say forget, let go and leave just like that?

He's happily with the gal now but here i am couldnt move on. I thought i had already let go. Trying not to think but he kept calling me and ask me out. He doesnt have any intention in patching back. He just need someone's accompany when his gf is working. His calling and all, triggered the love i had for him that i had all along tried to hide and not to think, i kept telling everyone that i am oki and i have already forgotten him. In fact, i am just lying to myself.

I cried everytime i think of him, everytime i thought of all our memories, all the promise that he has once made, everytime when i passby the places we have went to before. There is so much so much memories everywhere.

I wanted to move on and forget about him but i just couldnt stop thinking. I donno if i am still waiting for him to come back. I am so confused myself. What a useless gal.

You don't need a jerk-off like him.

If 4 years together ends like this, he's a major waste of time. Take it in your stride, you are too good for someone like him.

Talk it out to your friends, that's what they're for, bottling it up is unnecessary.

Cant offer u any advice here.... but be strong gal....

tell him to fark off lah.

Listen to the I Will Survive song...it will make you feel stronger.

u need someone to smack your head? i can do it for free.

Girl i think you should stop going out with him .

Think of it this way . If he`s using u just to kill time while his other gf is working . And all the crap that he has done to you in the past . It` just not worth it babe.

What u really need now is some one to pour your heart out to . Talk to some close friends or hack even ur parents about it . This way u`ll learn to forget him and move on . Although it`s easier said then done but it still has to be done .

Do u want to still be like this 2 years down the road . Keeping him company when he dont even give a damn about you and let him use you forever ?

U should also keep yourself occupied . Take up courses . Learn new things meet more people . That way you`ll find the guy who will really love you for who you are .

Good luck babe

Find yourself a rebound and serve him a "GTFO me" every time he calls.

Ju girl,

Go ahead, go out with him.. flirt with him.. seduce him..

That's what he really want anyway.

So what if you are the reserve.. you're helping him cheat on his current girlfriend.. just like when he cheated on you.

This relationship has come full circle.

He cheated on you , now he cheats on her with you.. how wonderful !!!

You've gotten the revenge on that woman you so deserve ! Do make sure his current girlfriend gets light on some of your sweet, mushy, steamy messages....

Make him horny... on those nights you know she is with him..... let his thoughts be filled with you.. on the bed they share.

Now.. this guy you so love.. must be sooo delirious...

After all.. what else can he ask for ?  TWO stupid woman.. crying their eyes out for him.

Now.. I wonder.. he got a big cock issit ? Don't forget.. good stuff are for sharing. EH ?

Gods beneath us! What viciousness!

Originally posted by Karma88:

Girl i think you should stop going out with him .

Think of it this way . If he`s using u just to kill time while his other gf is working . And all the crap that he has done to you in the past . It` just not worth it babe.

What u really need now is some one to pour your heart out to . Talk to some close friends or hack even ur parents about it . This way u`ll learn to forget him and move on . Although it`s easier said then done but it still has to be done .

Do u want to still be like this 2 years down the road . Keeping him company when he dont even give a damn about you and let him use you forever ?

U should also keep yourself occupied . Take up courses . Learn new things meet more people . That way you`ll find the guy who will really love you for who you are .

Good luck babe

Donno if he's really making use of me. Hmm maybe he is ba. Yes i have already shared with my friends, they dislike him alot since we break off cos he have done alot of things towards me. They don even like to hear about him.

Beginning of the breakup, i thought i could forget him. I took up courses keep myself very busy but as time goes by and with all his calling my stand wasn't firm anymore. He gave me wrong signal again treated me very well and now when i realise that i still love him, he ask me to forget about him. Then why in the 1st place keep calling me for the smallest matter and insist in keeping contact.

Originally posted by Ju lyn83:

Donno if he's really making use of me. Hmm maybe he is ba. Yes i have already shared with my friends, they dislike him alot since we break off cos he have done alot of things towards me. They don even like to hear about him.

 

Beginning of the breakup, i thought i could forget him. I took up courses keep myself very busy but as time goes by and with all his calling my stand wasn't firm anymore. He gave me wrong signal again treated me very well and now when i realise that i still love him, he ask me to forget about him. Then why in the 1st place keep calling me for the smallest matter and insist in keeping contact.

Ju girl,

So simple lah... he is playing with your feelings.. you know right ?

what level of sexual affection have you two gone far huh?

so hard for him to let go...... the sexual part only lah.

Originally posted by Ju lyn83:

It's been nearly a year since we broke off. But i am still struck here on the same point where he left me.

He gave me all sorts of reason saying that he wants a breakup pushing all the blame to me. 2days later when i went to look for him again to try and save our relationship, i saw a lovebite on his neck. That kind of pain in my heart was undescrible. He already has a new gf.

The reason we quarrel and ended breaking up was because i found out that he have been chatting with this gal. I didnt expect things to turn out like that. Moments before we quarrel he was still lovingly holding my hand.

Being with him for 4 and a half year. We have even thought of starting our own family. We have even went to apply for a flat together. Little did i expect him to have a change of heart. Just moments after he break off with me. Maybe 4 years plus wasn't long but we have gone through so much ups and downs together, how would a guy say forget, let go and leave just like that?

He's happily with the gal now but here i am couldnt move on. I thought i had already let go. Trying not to think but he kept calling me and ask me out. He doesnt have any intention in patching back. He just need someone's accompany when his gf is working. His calling and all, triggered the love i had for him that i had all along tried to hide and not to think, i kept telling everyone that i am oki and i have already forgotten him. In fact, i am just lying to myself.

I cried everytime i think of him, everytime i thought of all our memories, all the promise that he has once made, everytime when i passby the places we have went to before. There is so much so much memories everywhere.

I wanted to move on and forget about him but i just couldnt stop thinking. I donno if i am still waiting for him to come back. I am so confused myself. What a useless gal.

watever had happened tink back also no use... now u should face facts tat hesmoved on... if u still had feeling after breakup then u shouldnt meetup wif him(at least not so soon)...  last 4yrs ur time spent all wif him? wheres ur frens? yes u r hurting now but tis time to gather some frens to help u move on n time to cut ur ties wif him... no point acting strong infront of frens... let them help u...

MOving on is always hard

Originally posted by jojobeach:

Ju girl,

Go ahead, go out with him.. flirt with him.. seduce him..

That's what he really want anyway.

So what if you are the reserve.. you're helping him cheat on his current girlfriend.. just like when he cheated on you.

This relationship has come full circle.

He cheated on you , now he cheats on her with you.. how wonderful !!!

You've gotten the revenge on that woman you so deserve ! Do make sure his current girlfriend gets light on some of your sweet, mushy, steamy messages....

Make him horny... on those nights you know she is with him..... let his thoughts be filled with you.. on the bed they share.

Now.. this guy you so love.. must be sooo delirious...

After all.. what else can he ask for ?  TWO stupid woman.. crying their eyes out for him.

Now.. I wonder.. he got a big cock issit ? Don't forget.. good stuff are for sharing. EH ?

 

Why should i?

I hate third party myself. I would not do such a thing. I hate that gal alot super lot. There's alot of things that she did which is unbelivable. She would have her retribution one day.

Or maybe she is really that good way better than me and my relationship just wasn't strong enough.

take a knife and cut off his *D.. he's a total ass

Originally posted by jojobeach:

Ju girl,

So simple lah... he is playing with your feelings.. you know right ?

 

yes i know.

why bother about him so much? he is just playing around with you. time to move on and find a better guy who truely care about you.

Originally posted by sinicker:

what level of sexual affection have you two gone far huh?

so hard for him to let go...... the sexual part only lah.

is not because of this. if you guys want to think it this way. i have nothing to say.

then just let him go lah. dont talk to him. act busy, look busy. go out with your friends. do your own work. drown yourselves in work. what is it with him that u cant just live on your own? the more u go out with him/entertain him, the more he thinks he's so good his ex cant live w/o him.

then what could it be? you tell us now.

Originally posted by Hanagata:

why bother about him so much? he is just playing around with you. time to move on and find a better guy who truely care about you.

Yes. I know it's time to move on i want to move on also but i can't stop thinking i donno why. I tried accepting other guys but i can't. When i go out with other guys i felt guilty. Thinking if i really accept another guy what if he comes back.

Originally posted by Ju lyn83:

Yes. I know it's time to move on i want to move on also but i can't stop thinking i donno why. I tried accepting other guys but i can't. When i go out with other guys i felt guilty. Thinking if i really accept another guy what if he comes back.

FYI hes not gonna come back... tis type of crap u also wan? believe u deserve better gal.. already got NEW gf liao so time to cut ur losses... dun be the stupid gal tat u labelled urself...

Originally posted by sinicker:

then just let him go lah. dont talk to him. act busy, look busy. go out with your friends. do your own work. drown yourselves in work. what is it with him that u cant just live on your own? the more u go out with him/entertain him, the more he thinks he's so good his ex cant live w/o him.

then what could it be? you tell us now.

4 years plus wasn't long i know. But to me it's like a big part was missing in my life.

Originally posted by Ju lyn83:

Yes. I know it's time to move on i want to move on also but i can't stop thinking i donno why. I tried accepting other guys but i can't. When i go out with other guys i felt guilty. Thinking if i really accept another guy what if he comes back.

Ofcors he will come back...

The moment he finds out you're cozy in another guy's arm.

He'll come charging back, begging for you to take him.

So, go find yourself a better guy than this ex of yours lor.

But then.. once you found another better guy.. why would you want to go back to a playa like him leh ?